LOUDER GIRL GETS IN GOOD TROUBLE

All my life, I’ve been a rebel.
I’ve fought systems. Questioned authority. Refused to quietly fall in line.

Growing up, my dad called me a “one-way chick.”

It wasn’t a compliment.

It was his way of saying I was stubborn. Hard-headed. Determined to do things my way. He only used it when we were butting heads and neither of us would back down. Funny thing, nobody else in my family got called that. Not my mom. Not my sister. Not even my brother.

Just me.

And for years, I thought that meant something was wrong with me. 

The First Time I Realized I Challenged Authority

Image: Girl telling the truth

I was 17. My sister was 16.

She walked into the little nut shop (Shout out to Nutville, USA) where I worked at the mall crying after turning in a job application at a jewelry store nearby.

“He said he was going to hire me,” she whispered. “And then he leaned over and kissed me.”

I was out the door before she finished the sentence.

I marched straight into that jewelry store and confronted the owner.

“Don’t you ever touch my sister or any other girl again.”

Even then, something inside me knew:

I was never meant to stay quiet to keep others comfortable.

Women Who Speak Up Get Labeled

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Over the years, I’ve been called:

• Too much 
• Emotional 
• Difficult 
• Feminazi 
• Opinionated 
• Drama queen
• Troublemaker 
• Cold 
• Selfish
• Snobby 
• Oversensitive 

Honestly, most LOUD women I know have their own version of this list. 

Because the moment we:

• stop people-pleasing, 
• question the system, 
• set boundaries, 
• speak directly, 
• take up space, 
• protect ourselves, 
• or tell the truth… 

We become a problem.

Here’s What I Know Now

I was never “too much.”

I was awake.

I was reacting to systems that expected women to:

• stay quiet, 
• stay agreeable, 
• stay grateful, 
• stay small. 

And when we don’t?

We get punished. Mocked. Othered.

For decades, I internalized those labels and questioned myself.

Why can’t I just go along with things?
Why can’t I let things go?
Why can’t I just be cool?

Because I can’t.

And honestly?
I don’t want to anymore.

Good Trouble Isn’t Just Protest Signs and Capitol Hill

Image: Rebel with a cause

Civil rights leader John Lewis famously said:
“Get in good trouble, necessary trouble.”

That line lives in my bones.

Because good trouble is not just marching in the streets.

Sometimes good trouble looks like:

• saying no without apologizing, 
• resting instead of proving yourself, 
• leaving the toxic friendship, 
• asking for more money, 
• telling the truth, 
• protecting your peace, 
• refusing to abandon yourself anymore. 

Small Ways to Cause BIG Trouble Or Big Ways to Cause Good Trouble

1. Listen to Your Body

Your body tells the truth before your mouth does.

That stomach clench.
That exhaustion.
That resentment.
That excitement.

That’s information.

Good trouble starts when women stop overriding themselves.

2. Tell the Truth

Instead of:

“I’m fine.”

Try:

“Actually, I’m overwhelmed.”

Instead of:

“Maybe.”

Try:

“No.”

Truth is disruptive in a culture that rewards performing.

3. Stop Performing the “Good Girl” Role

You do not exist to:

• keep everyone comfortable, 
• manage everyone’s emotions, 
• over-explain your boundaries, 
• or shrink yourself to be more digestible. 

Try saying:

• “I don’t feel like it.”
• “I’m tired.”
• “Being liked is no longer my full-time job.”
• “Actually, I disagree.”
• “Let me finish.”

4. Support Women

Image: Women supporting women

Hire women.
Recommend women.
Pay women.
Believe women.
Collaborate instead of compete.

That’s good trouble too.

5. Rest Because You Want To

Take the nap.

Not because you “deserve” it after productivity.

Because you are a human being. Not a machine.

Rest is resistance in a culture obsessed with output.

6. Question the Damn Story

Who benefits from women believing they are:

• too emotional? 
• too loud? 
• too old? 
• too ambitious? 
• not enough? 

Because it sure as hell isn’t us.

7. Take Up Space

Speak first.
Raise your hand.
Share the idea.
Wear the outfit.
Launch the thing.
Use your voice before you feel ready.

The LOUDER GIRL Shift

Maybe you aren’t “too much.”

Maybe you’ve just spent your whole life surrounded by systems that benefited from your silence.

Maybe your anger isn’t dysfunction.
Maybe it’s wisdom.

Maybe your exhaustion isn’t failure.
Maybe it’s the cost of abandoning yourself for too long.

Maybe the thing you’ve been calling “too sensitive” is your leadership.

And maybe…

Getting LOUDER is the most necessary trouble of all. 

Are You Ready to Be a LOUDER GIRL?

You’re not broken.

You’ve just been taught to stay quiet.

Let’s change that.

Ready to get LOUD about good trouble? To lead your life with authenticity and truth? 

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